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President Biden campaigned on 鈥渞estoring the soul鈥� of America. His campaign slogan, 鈥淏uild back better,鈥� promised an end to deeply entrenched partisanship. Days before his monumental inauguration to the presidency, millions of Americans were praying that this toxicity plaguing our country will begin to dissipate under stable leadership, and that鈥攚ith a new president鈥攐ur political system will become functional.

鈥淲e need to work together to give each other a chance to lower the temperature,鈥� Biden said back in December. 鈥淲e may come from different places, hold different beliefs, but we share in common a love for this country.鈥�

It鈥檚 hard to find hope in these words, especially after Trump supporters, aiming to overturn the certified election results, raided the U.S. Capitol building, causing members of Congress to flee鈥攁 first in our history. So here we are after the inauguration hoping not just for forthcoming legislation to improve our schools or pay down our national debt, but that this administration will save our democracy. This is not a new concern, just one that now has higher stakes.

For decades, we have relied on our presidents to unite and heal America鈥檚 divisions through bipartisanship and 鈥渞eaching across the aisle.鈥� Yet over the years we鈥檝e only become more divided. And now we find ourselves here.

What, then, do we do when the grip of extreme partisanship continues to squeeze the life out of our democracy to the point of inciting violence, even after the inauguration of a president committed to reversing this downward spiral?

In 2016, a wave of bridge-building organizations across the country created an infrastructure to foster dialogue between disagreeing Americans. I started one of these groups, the project at GLIDE Memorial Church in San Francisco. I鈥檝e seen how conversations across the lines of race, class, politics, and religion can have a transformative impact on a community.

We can鈥檛 outsource the work to heal America鈥檚 divisions; not to a president, nor to anyone else in the halls of power. This is our work, our responsibility. For those who want a healthy, peaceful democracy that solves seemingly intractable problems, this is our moment.

We must immediately take these three simple steps to prevent further hostility and violence in America:

Let Your Anger Build Bridges, Not Burn Them

Anger is a source of energy. To tap into it for productive purposes, I suggest downloading a meditation app (Insight Timer or Down Dog Meditation, for example) and taking a few minutes every day to clear your mind and calm your nervous system. Doing so transformed me. No longer am I a prisoner to anger that previously simmered in my idle body. I now use anger to fuel my desire to build peace and make valuable change in my community. Not only does this connect me with other people of goodwill, this also grants me the opportunity to challenge beliefs I oppose, and do so in a way that leaves us open to future dialogue. Maybe you鈥檙e too angry to build bridges right now鈥攖hat鈥檚 OK. For those of us who are ready, we will work on your behalf.

Focus on Your Community

Join a nonprofit or church and lead or assist an effort to host inclusive community conversations. Rather than solely focusing on the theatrics of politics, we must also engage in our local communities. What would a vibrant democracy look like in your community? For me, it looked like a group of people who strongly disagreed with each other gathering to begin the process of ongoing dialogue about the very things that divide us from one another. Because for many decades, hosting a community meeting among people who otherwise may not talk to each other can make meaningful change.

Look for the Helpers鈥攁nd Join Them

Mister Rogers鈥� mother told him to 鈥溾�� in the news鈥攖he rescue teams, the medical personnel鈥攚ho rush in to help during a crisis. 鈥淚f you look for the helpers,鈥� Mister Rogers said, 鈥測ou鈥檒l know that there鈥檚 hope.鈥� When it comes to increased violence and hatred plaguing our country, there are many communities across the country actively working to heal what divides us from one another. Find them and join their efforts: Different Together, , and , just to name a few.

This won鈥檛 always be easy. Even though I鈥檓 a proponent of these bridge-building conversations, I鈥檓 not immune to the frustration and anger that bridge-building work can evoke. Overall, I鈥檝e learned that if we are to heal division and prevent it from degenerating into utter mayhem, then we need to muster a gritty perseverance that builds bridges even when it鈥檚 uncomfortable.

I accept this work as my responsibility, a way to give back to my community and country. You and I can do this together. Our ripple effects, our joint efforts鈥攏o matter how small鈥攚ill make a difference.