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Everette Taylor has a lot to offer鈥攏ot only to his family, but also to his community. Father to Breonna Taylor, who was killed by police in Louisville, Kentucky, in March 2020, Taylor is currently serving a 45-year prison sentence. Like many of his fellow prisoners, he was sentenced at a very young age, before his brain was fully developed. Today, he has transformed himself into a compassionate, thoughtful person who would have much to offer as a free man. 

Speaking with Taylor by phone, I got a sense of what a loving family man he is, how introspective he is, and how lonely he feels. It has been even more difficult for him since the pandemic鈥檚 two-year ban on visits from family and his girlfriend, Lisa Williams. Everette鈥檚 surviving five children鈥擜sia, De鈥橝ndrea, Ateaonia, Everette III, and Shantelle鈥攕ay he always remembers their birthdays and tries to participate by phone on special occasions in their lives.

He says he is trying to 鈥渉old myself together鈥� when he speaks with family about Breonna, but he and his family are clearly grieving the loss of her brightness.

The family has suffered grief and trauma from Breonna鈥檚 death. This was compounded when she was denied justice in the decision to not charge the officers who shot her. One sister is on anti-anxiety medications and another is on blood pressure medication. 

Everette Taylor spoke with me by phone from Lakeland Correctional Facility in Michigan, where he was being held before being transferred to Macomb Correctional Facility.

This interview has been edited for clarity and length.

Silha: What was it like to grow up in Grand Rapids, Michigan?

Taylor: I was born in Grand Rapids. My pops and my mom were married right before I was born. Although my father was around, he wasn鈥檛 present. When I was coming up, I knew who he was, but he wasn鈥檛 there much. 

I grew up on the southeast side of Grand Rapids, but by the time I was 16, folks knew me everywhere I went. My granny lived in Kentwood, and I had friends out there. Everywhere I went, people were just attracted to me. You know what I鈥檓 saying?

My mom basically raised me in the church. She was a single parent for the most part. She just did everything. We didn鈥檛 have a lot. But we didn鈥檛 know that then.

I just always wanted to be around her. Whatever she was doing, wherever she was going, I just wanted to be there with her. She did a good job with me. 

I really commend my kids for sticking together. I talk to them regularly. I don鈥檛 hold anything back.

When I got to a certain age, I just wanted to do what I wanted to do. That鈥檚 how it usually goes. When kids are ready to explore certain things, that鈥檚 what happens. It doesn鈥檛 necessarily mean that鈥檚 the way they鈥檙e raised. It鈥檚 just that people want to explore the world and are curious about certain things. And that鈥檚 the way I was.

I was living a certain type of life when I was young, and certain things just come with it鈥擨 was either locked up or dead, basically.

Silha: So, you were getting into a lot of trouble?

Taylor: I was, but I wasn鈥檛. It all depends on what you consider a lot, you know? One infraction on the juvenile record鈥擨 wouldn鈥檛 consider that getting in trouble a lot. 

Silha: What about when the drug deal and murder happened?

Taylor: Everybody had guns. When I was dealing drugs, one thing led to another. I had to arm myself. Anything can happen. When the murder happened, I was there, but I didn鈥檛 shoot a gun. I was a popular dude in the neighborhood. But police thought I could be a suspect for everything that was happening. 

I was never part of a gang, because I was cool with everybody, basically. I was just in my own world trying to figure out things on my own, so I never aligned myself with a certain individual or a group. I was just on the fly, winging it.

Silha: Tell me about Breonna. She was your fourth child, and was born two days before your other daughter Ateaonia?

Taylor: From my firstborn to when Breonna was born, it was about a year鈥檚 difference. Asia was born on June 11, 1992, and Breonna was born on June 5, 1993. Days later, her sister Ateaonia was born on June 7. And they were in the same room of the maternity ward!

Ateaonia鈥檚 mom was the only one I really had a relationship with. When I was in the room with them, the nurse told me, 鈥淵ou know your other daughter鈥檚 over here?鈥� I鈥檓 like, 鈥淏y who?鈥� She said, 鈥淏y Tamika over here.鈥� [Breonna鈥檚 was a cesarean birth.]

So, I basically had six kids before I turned 18. The mindset I had back then was, 鈥淚 just got to get the money to make sure they are good.鈥� I didn鈥檛 have a blueprint for how to be a father, so to speak. 

Every day鈥檚 different and every day鈥檚 the same.

And that鈥檚 the only thing I really regret. Looking back now that I have grown and matured, I see that I didn鈥檛 get to deal with the memories that I wanted to. I thought, 鈥淢oney will take care of everything.鈥� It was the mentality of a child [because I was so young]. When you鈥檙e 16, 17, you think you know everything.

I was there [for my kids], but I wasn鈥檛 there like I know I could鈥檝e been, now. Looking back, I was a child trying to raise children, and I didn鈥檛 know what to do. All I was thinking was, 鈥淒o you need anything? OK, I鈥檓 going to get the money,鈥� and, 鈥淗ere, that鈥檒l take care of everything,鈥� instead of building the memories and being there. The way I look at it now, being there is more important than material things.

I wasn鈥檛 there for the things that mean something to them: the graduations, Sweet 16s. The way I look at it, I was selfish. But back then, I would never have thought of using those words, 鈥渂eing selfish.鈥�

I really commend my kids for sticking together. I talk to them regularly. I don鈥檛 hold anything back. I let them know they can talk to me, saying, 鈥淚f you all are feeling any type of way, let me know that. Express it to me with no holds barred. I respect you all as adults now to let me know how you鈥檙e feeling about me not being there.鈥� And I know they respect me for saying that. 

Silha: What did Breonna say?

Taylor: We remained close. She was 5 when I was imprisoned. She never said anything bad.

For real, though, she reminded me of me. But she was also like her mother, because she spent more time around her mother, and that鈥檚 who was her role model. Her mom was there from day one. 

Breonna was a laid-back young lady. She was real easygoing, not quick to get mad about anything, loved to work, just loved life, had big dreams. 

Since I鈥檝e been incarcerated, me and her mom, we鈥檝e been in communication through every move they made, since they moved to Louisville. 

I respect all my kids鈥� moms, because they never tried to keep the kids away from me. 

Patience is really forced upon you in prison.

I remember in the last JPay (JPay is how prisoners can communicate with the outside world), Bre wrote me, 鈥淚 hope to see you soon.鈥� And that just sticks with me right there, every time I think about Bre. I wonder what she meant by that sentence, 鈥淚 hope to see you soon.鈥�

Silha: Did you know it was Dee Dee and Breonna鈥檚 mission to get you out of prison?

Taylor: When you mentioned that again, it just 鈥� tugged at my heart. Yeah. 

Right before Bre passed, she told me the two of them were on the same mission. So, yes, I knew. But getting me out was more Dee Dee鈥檚 idea, because she鈥檚 been saying that since she was a kid.

Silha: Do you have a message that you might want to give to people who are protesting in Breonna鈥檚 name?

Taylor: I don鈥檛 know. Everybody is looking at the situation differently. There is really not a 鈥渨rong鈥� or a 鈥渞ight鈥� thing. 鈥� You have to be really careful with your words, because people are listening. And when they hear her father, they鈥檒l take into account my feelings and my views. And I don鈥檛 want that right now, because it could be positive or negative. I do have some things to say, but I just keep them to myself. All the money in the world can鈥檛 bring her back.

Silha: What has it been like in prison for 23 years?

Taylor: Every day鈥檚 different and every day鈥檚 the same. I鈥檝e worn my blue and orange prison suits every day. I鈥檝e spent 10 months in solitary confinement (for being 鈥渋n the yard鈥� when a riot broke out at the Kinross Correctional Facility in 2016 when prisoners rebelled over unsanitary conditions).

Now, I live in an eight-man cube. All the prisons are basically the same. But I鈥檝e been down here so long, I just learned to deal with all the different personalities. It鈥檚 hard at times, when you don鈥檛 want to be around people and you are forced to be around them. But other than that, it鈥檚 OK, because I can just be in my own zone. 

It鈥檚 a big room, with four bunk beds. We are on top of each other in here, for real. 

Silha: What was it like to be in solitary?

Taylor: It was pretty rough. But the time kept passing. That鈥檚 the way I looked at it. I just found different little things to occupy my time such as reading, writing, working out, talking on the phone, visits. We only get 15-minute phone calls. 

Silha: How would you say you鈥檝e changed in your 22 years in prisons?

Taylor: Well, I have changed in a couple of different ways. One, I became a lot more patient with things. And I became a lot more understanding of other people, as well, in terms of what they are going through. I am more mindful of other people鈥檚 feelings. I was a kid when I came in here, even though I thought I was grown up back then. But I grew up in here, so to speak, and started to put a lot of things in perspective.

On the other hand, patience is really forced upon you in prison. Because we are at other people鈥檚 mercy, we can鈥檛 do anything ourselves. If I need somebody to send some money to me or something, I have got to wait for them to do that. 

So I learned to develop patience, in all sorts of aspects of the word.

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